me and them

I noticed that our conversation reveals the way that we think. As I conversed with some other church members yesterday lamenting again over the deterioration of our youth and society, I found that we are good at stating problems, but poor at solving them. The current church structure encourages one to let someone else do it. Give money, support ministers and missionaries, get a speaker, and so on. But what if I was empowered to change those I come in contact with? How would I do this? What kind of change would I be working for?